What I Don’t Like About You, I Mean Me

What I Don’t Like About You, I Mean Me

That person you despise? I hate to be the one to tell you, but they are showing you the traits you least like about yourself. Here’s how that works: -All humans have the capacity to behave in ways that all other humans behave–from the most honorable to the...
Holiday Cards: Yes or No?

Holiday Cards: Yes or No?

For many of us, the winter holidays have changed from a time of pleasant relaxation, quiet celebration, humble gratitude and once-a-year-special treats into a carnival of frenzied activity, regret-filled gluttony, fretful spending and massive angst. The transformation...
The Hurry in Your Head

The Hurry in Your Head

A New York Times Op-Talk blog got me thinking about a common theme among my clients and friends: chronic overwhelm. The article focuses on breathing, reframing and working less as solutions, but in my experience, those can be helpful only after we’ve gone a bit...

When “Not Today” is Better Than “Never”

In the course of conversation with a friend last night, the topic of family relationships came up. Listening intently, a nifty skill I picked up in coach training, I noticed that she used the word “never” to describe future interactions with her sister. “I’m so done....

The It’s-No-Use Tabernacle Choir

I’ve been in a bit of a dark place these last few days, feeling as though I “should” be dispensing inspiration, because, well, it’s my job. When I get into these dark moods, which come and go like any other cycle of nature—the waxing and waning of the lunar cycle, the...